People often say that thoughts become things- but questions are what help determine our thoughts.
Successful people simply ask better questions. If you ask better questions, you get better answers. When you have better answers, you make better decisions. Better decisions lead to better results.
The quality of your life improves.
Now, you may be thinking, "ok that makes sense, but how do I do this?" We will tell you!
You have often heard the suggestion or saying "ask and ye shall receive." It's true.
Think for a second about something you want and what you are willing to do to get that.
Maybe ask a question that will put you in a better mood in an instant- what are you happy, proud, grateful, excited about?
Once you are in a better mood you can then really start to focus on what you want.
An Exercise/Process To Help You Ask Better Questions:
Set out to ask four questions about that thing that you want.
What is in your way?
How are you limiting yourself?
What can get you to that goal?
Who can help you?
Asking questions can get you anything you want. When you ask the right questions, and write them down you then have a plan. When you have a plan, you have instantly increased the odds that you will get what you what. Or at a minimum you will have increased your belief in your ability to get what you want.
We do a lot work at PEERtrainer to help people increase their belief in their ability to gain control of their health and energy for the long term. Our focus is to help you gain hope, increase your optimism. What is interesting about this focus is that you can get to this point, and start nurturing this, without sticking to a stringent plan.
Someone yesterday posted this comment on our Facebook Wall:
"I'm on Jenny Craig and Weight Watchers. But I can't stay on the program. It seems... I keep nibbling at night and sometimes I want to binge eat."
Our whole point, and something that we keep coming back to over and over and over is that for many people when they can't "stay on the program" it leads to some very destructive behaviors. We tell people to think in terms of "tools" and not "programs."
You want to gather as big a set of tools as you can, you want to think long term, and you MUST go easy on yourself.
To use an academic term, our "thesis" is to think about your path to health and energy in terms of a journey. Step one is to simply commit to being on it. You don't need to achieve total mastery right out of the gate. That's nuts!
In this journey you also want to have an objective. We use the term "Point Of No Return" because it is so helpful to have some sort of objective. To us, the objective of this term is to get to a place where you are in a lot more control.
It is GREAT place to be, and WORTH the work it takes to get there.
People have responded to this concept, and really embraced it. If you think about it, so many traditional diet approaches are akin to pushing a beach ball under water. Obviously the ball will bounce right back up.
But when you think in terms of the journey, you break it down into a small series of adjustments. This changes your whole mindset. Maybe an email comes to you with an article with an idea, just like this one, and you get back on track. Or you try a new adjustment. But you enjoy it.
We have a big crew of people who started our "big program" just after Christmas. We are hearing from many of you right now, after the 4 week mark. It is so great to see so many of you really taking your time, going easy on yourselves. And it is working. Bit by bit we are seeing people with more hope, and optimism and all that.
For those of you who are just "following along at home" you can nurture this same sense of of hope and belief. Even if you do just one thing a day or a week, you will remain on the journey.
You will get there. We promise!
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