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segodnia ja sjela:
banan i chaj ytrom, sup na rabote i 2 jabloka, sead&nut bar, 3misochki salata, i tyt nachalos: 6 shokolsdnuh konfet, 3x3 sereal bars cookies, 2 fruit scones, ja dumajy chto vse ja yge ne vspomnu.... pizdec

Symptoms of Relapse


While the individual himself must maintain the disciplines that insure sobriety, there are ways in which others can help. Nearly every person close to the addict is able to recognize behavior changes that indicate a return to the old ways of thinking. Often these individuals and fellow drug users have tried to warn the drug user, who may or may not be willing to be told. He may consider it nagging or a violation of his privacy. There are many danger signs. Most addicts, if approached properly, would be willing to go over an inventory of symptoms periodically with a spouse of other confidant. If the symptoms are caught early enough and recognized, the addict will usually try to change his thinking, to get "back on the beam" again. A weekly inventory of symptoms might prevent some relapses. This added discipline is one that many addicts should try. Following is a list of common symptoms leading to possible relapse - or to what is commonly called "stinking thinking".

Exhaustion: Allowing yourself to become overly tired or in poor health. Some addicts are also prone to work addictions perhaps in an effort to make up for lost time. Good health and enough rest is important. If you feel well you are apt to think well. Feel poorly and your thinking is apt to deteriorate. Feel bad enough and you might begin thinking a fix couldn't make it any worse.

Dishonest: This begins with a pattern of unnecessary little lies and deceits with fellow workers, friends and family. Then come important lies to yourself. This is called rationalizing - making excuses for not doing what you want to do, or for doing what you know you should not do.

Impatience: Things are not happening fast enough Or others are not doing what they should or what you want them to do.

Argumentativeness: Arguing small and ridiculous point of view indicates a need to always be right. "Why don't you be reasonable and agree with me?" Looking for an excuse to use.

Depression: Unreasonable and unaccountable despair may occur in cycles and should be dealt with, talked about.

Frustration: At people and also because things may not he going your way. Remember, everything is not going to be just the way you want it.

Self-Pity: "Why do these things always happen to me?" "Why must I be an addict?" "Nobody appreciates all I'm doing for them."

Cockiness: Got it made * no longer fears using - going into using situations to prove to others that you no longer have a problem. Do this often enough and it will wear down your defenses.

Complacency: "Using was the furthest thing from my mind". Not using was not longer a conscious thought either. II is dangerous to let up on defenses because everything is going well. Always to have a little fear is a good thing. More relapses occur when things are going well than otherwise.

Expecting too much from others: "I've changed; why hasn't ever one else?" It's a plus if they do - but it is still your problem if they do not.

Letting up on disciplines: This can stem either from complacency or boredom. You cannot afford to he bored with your program. The cost of relapse is always too great.

Use of mood altering chemicals: You may feel the need to ease things with alcohol and your friends may go along with you. You may never have had a problem with alcohol, but you easily can fall this way * about the most subtle way to have a relapse. Remember, you will be cheating!! The reverse of this is true for alcoholics who begin using drugs.

Waiting too much: Do not set goals you cannot reach with normal effort. Do not expect too much, It's always great when good things you were not expecting happen. You will get what you are entitled to as long as you do your best, but maybe not as soon as you think you should. "Happiness is not having what you want, but wanting what you have."

Forgetting gratitude: You may be looking negatively on your life, concentrating on problems that still are not totally correct. Nobody wants to he a pollyanna, - but it is good to remember where you started from and how much better life is now.

"It can't happen to me": This is dangerous thinking. Almost anything can happen to you and is more likely if you become careless. Remember, you have a progressive disease, and you will be in worse shape if you relapse.

Omnipotence: Is a feeling that results from a combination of many of the above You may have all the answers for yourself and others. No one can tell you anything. You ignore the suggestions or advice from others. Relapse is probably eminent unless drastic changes take place.

In conclusion, you must willing to allow time to pass and endure the temporary discomfort of the feelings while troubles-shooting the facts and getting involved in positive action toward recovery.

You will remain stuck and in pain and discomfort, only for as long as it takes you to get into action in a recovery-oriented procedure. Your balance in recovery will become much more solid as your awareness of the solution and your action towards that solution increases.

Watch out for 'stuck' points.
Pick up that '100 lb.' pen and write about those stuck points when you feel out-of-sorts for any reason.
Double up on your meetings.
Call your sponsor (or special someone) and spend time with them during this critical time.
Re-connect with your Higher Power.
Allow time to pass (without chemicals), while you're trouble-shooting towards the solution.


With these tips you will most likely be able to:

Begin to plan short-term goals.
Reduce high stress situations.
Better problem-solve stuck points.
Improve coping skills.
Start living in the solution.

I’ve not had a proper binge since Nov 5th 2009. I eat 3 meals a day rather than starving myself until the evening and then bingeing like I used to. I try to focus on healthier choices but nothing is forbidden. It’s better to have a small treat than to deny myself and end up in a binge.

I am learning to recognise signs of relapse and that is a big step, even if I can’t yet avoid the relapse itself.

Exercising more makes me feel better and less focussed on diet as the only way to lose weight.

I’ve tried to avoid trigger foods and places and try to only eat at mealtimes, on a plate and in the dining area.

9 months ago | 0 comments



Untitled by lophodont

Counting days binge-free always messes me up, I always seems to mentally sabotage myself. I don’t get it.

I dreamt about binging last night, and in my dream, saying screw it, a few more days of binging will be okay cause I already messed up, which is remarkably poignant. Just how it is when I am awake. I am getting close to the point where I typically mess up, but I am going to try and forget about it, and hopefully make it past that point.

It has been hard thus far, but I have to do this. I can’t live this (or rather that) way anymore.

9 months ago | 0 comments



How to stop binge eating by Joanna

"therapy."
It took me 2 years It made me
How I did it: I started seeing a therapist and a psychiatrist, neither of whom seemed to want to address the binge eating specifically, but a myriad of other things that I worked through, and eventually it seemed that binge eating became unnecessary. I still have issues with food, but I don't feel the constant urge to binge as I did in the past.

Lessons & tips: Identify what is driving you to want to lose control.

Resources: Therapy, psychiatry, Prozac (no longer take it but it did help)

9 months ago | 1 comment | 3 cheers



Amazing support for binge eating by iMirm

Hi guys. A few people have replied to my post about having accountability partners or trying to overcome this together. If you’re interested, I’ve been on this site www.howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum for a few months now and I amd many people have had so much success. In the past 3 months I’ve had 2 small binges and I’m about to be 30 days binge free continuously. I’m there by the same name. Hope to see you guys there soon (:

9 months ago | 0 comments



Untitled by lophodont

I know it is always considered a bad idea to try and normalize your eating while also wanting to lose weight, but the excess weight causes me depression, and subsequently binge eating, and it is a disgusting, demoralizing, painful cycle.

I am trying to eat normally, healthfully, and exercise, to lose weight in a slow and safe manner, while normalizing my eating at the same time.

On top of this I have 4 months left of graduate school, I am suffering from the worst depression of my life, am struggling with constant suicidal ideation, and trying to afford and find a decent therapist so I can start going to DBT (dialectical behavioural therapy). I have a history of every eating disorder you can image, self injury, anxiety. I could go on.

I need a life change, and one of the biggest steps, is stopping this binge eating once and for all. It has gotten better over recent months, but is still my go to. I intend to actually put in place all of the strategies I have learned, and just breathe, and accept myself, I can’t live in this cycle of self-hatred, and disgust.

Every time I binge, I become suicidal, and have even gone back to some of my old self injury habits. It has become too much. I am destroying by body, my mental health, going against my vegan ethics, stealing food, eating out of trash cans, skipping school or work to binge, avoiding social situations, and have developed a sense of self-loathing. It is amazing how this thing can get a hold of you, and how hard it is to pry those fingers off, one by one.

9 months ago | 0 comments



Picking up the pieces by Georgite

I went 3 full weeks without bingeing once. I still don’t know exactly how that happened, because I think my previous record was more like 3 days. I felt great and proud of myself. Then I saw my sister the other day and she’s so thin – effortlessly so, because she eats what she wants – and I just felt terrible about my self and my life and how much weight I still have to lose. And that triggered a massive binge – I only recovered FIVE days later. One can do a lot of damage in 5 days.
But now I am picking myself up and looking forward. I am not going to waste my time on something that doesn’t bring me closer to my goal.

11 months ago | 3 cheers | 0 comments



How to stop binge eating by raincheck

It took me 15 years It made me happier
How I did it: I stopped throwing up. It was that simple. After so many years of binge-eating, purging/throwing up and excessive exercising, I found my balance again and the single most important choice that I made was to stop throwing up, no matter what.
OK, I did gain a few pounds, but that's nothing compared to the hell of being addicted to binge-eating.

Lessons & tips: Never go without a meal.
Never throw up.
Exercise.

That's the recipe to success.

11 months ago | 0 comments | 2 cheers



Tomorrow by nikki9311

I binged today…as I did yesterday. I just found this site and I’m starting tomorrow. I read where someone said it helps to repeat, “I am recovered.” I think I’ll try that. I like the sound of it. (;

11 months ago | 0 comments



I want to stop binge eating by CatChLi

I have had problems with food all my life. It’s a love-hate relationship and I find it controls me rather than me controlling it. I have zig zigged through anorexia, bulemia and binge-eating and currently- although I have a healthy diet and take great pleasure it maintaining it- I regularly lose control, feast out and the guilt spiral starts all over again. I want to stop binge eating.

11 months ago | 1 cheer | 0 comments



Support? Please read and respond. by iMirm

Hi everyone. I’ve been a member of this goal several times in the past and have been really successful at times only to go back and do it all over again-you know the story. Anyway, one of those times, I met someone on here and we corresponded back and forth and both did much better in achieving our goal for having done it. I realise people don’t use this much anymore but I would love to see a small group of us get together and support each other and achieve our goal together. You don’t have to share anything you don’t want to-just know that there’s someone there for support and to help resist temptation and to report and celebrate your victories with.

Is anyone interested?

12 months ago | 4 comments



Untitled by elizara

Back to normal. I ate two very healthy meals, breakfast and lunch, and feel really much better. This whole thing is a reminder that i have to be vigilant against a relapse, and I also need to focus on my relationship with food. And also that I need to be extra careful when traveling… make response cards and find distractions to bring with me.

12 months ago | 0 comments



lapse by elizara

After a month of steady control and weight loss and care and freedom from this vicious cycle with the help of a book by judith beck, all my newfound skills and self-control and freedom went out the window on Sunday, exactly two days ago, when I got on a plane for a reporting trip to the middle of nowhere and when i got there, totally feeling lost and scared and not sure what to do or how to report on this GOD AWFUL place, also cold because I hadn’t packed a warm jacket, also worried about losing a friend with whom I had tried to have an assertive conversation about concerns but it backfired, I went into a restaurant and proceeded to finish the whole dish rather than the third of it that I meant to eat. That one lapse snowballed, because of the stress and weird feelings of being there… and I started eating ice cream til it hurt. Seriously hurt the next day. But I kept eating and I think I already gained a pound from all the food. Technically, counting calories, it should be a pound. But I can lose it back but first I have to process all the feelings. I felt scared, cold, lonely, lost, under deadline pressure, helpless, didn’t know what to do or how to do my work. I felt in over my head. Why was I there in the first place? I didn’t know. On top of work stress, I also felt guilty and worried about losing my friend. I also just hated that town. It was the freakiest most desolate place I have EVER BEEN IN MY LIFE. It was really the scariest place I have ever been. The town seemed inhuman and apocalyptic. I am not exaggerating. And in my head, I felt all chaos and confusion and fear. Binge eating was my way to escape the feelings. And focus the chaos in my mind on one thing… bite by bite. Next time I should bring some things to distract myself. I don’t know what. I guess I could have texted my friend. Or listened to music. I just want to feel free to travel without throwing my diet out the window and inhaling calories as if I’m aiming to break the binge-eating world record. As soon as I got home today I felt safe and fine again… and I slept nonstop. I went to sleep at 8 p.m. yesterday, woke up at 8 a.m. today, then back to sleep from 11:30 a.m. to 4 p.m. It was all half-sleep with strange dreams. I just want to get back on track. And I want to free myself, to learn how to travel in the future without losing my marbles again.
I think one of my problems was intellectualizing.. instead of just being conscious of my sheer terror at this place, I was thinking… how am I going to get my story done? What am I going to ask this person I need to interview about whatever? I was totally unaware of my feelings. I felt like rocking back and forth or burying myself under the covers… but I made dazed efforts to interview people… which is hard when I was so detached myself.

about 1 year ago | 0 comments



Untitled by cathsadler

Today is my line in the sand day, although I know I will never be perfect I am determined to be recovered and live a normal life. Being pregnant is extra motivation to overcome and be healhty and happy

about 1 year ago | 0 comments



46 Days by MyFairKatie

It’s been 46 days now since I last binged. I’ve been losing weight (21 pounds) and I feel a lot better now that I’m not bingeing. I discovered the key for me is to not let myself get really really hungry. When I go a long time without eating, I notice I want to binge. I’ve been eating larger meals and only one snack a day, and that helps a lot.

about 1 year ago | 1 cheer | 0 comments



Five days by Georgite

I went 5 days without bingeing. That probably sounds pathetic, but for me that is a huge achievement. I can’t even remember the last time I went that long without bingeing. I had a big binge this afternoon, recovered, then relapsed again in the evening. I am so angry with myself, because I know I could have prevented it: I have this rule that I am not allowed to eat for 20 minutes after a meal, not even a crumb, because it always ends in a binge. I broke the rule and paid for it. Now I have to get into my routine again. Hopefully I can get it fixed before the weekend.

about 1 year ago | 3 cheers | 5 comments



Untitled by Georgite

The last three days have been utter hell – I was constantly bingeing. I feel fat and worthless. It is so very hard to break out of the cycle once I’m in it. And to think it all started with a ‘innocent’ snack!
Yesterday things kinda fell back into order again, so today I’m going to try to be nice to myself and see how it goes.

about 1 year ago | 0 comments


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